About Therapy

Why do people come to psychotherapy?

To quote Seán Manning, former president of the New Zealand Association of Psychotherapists :
The great majority of psychotherapy clients come because they seek freedom from anxiety, depression, posttraumatic symptoms, destructive relationships, violence, addiction, and other behavioural, affective and cognitive subjectivities that are ruining the quality of their lives. They are driven to seek us out because they cannot stand their own thoughts or feelings, or are driven to despair by their relationships, their drinking or their violence. This is very much about health, and we work alongside health professionals of all colours to try to improve that health, so that people can sleep a little, drink less, smile more, lose or gain weight, improve their relationships (Pluralism in psychotherapy: critical relfections from a post-regulation landscape ebook p.395 Book p.333)

How do counselling, psychotherapy and psychoanalysis help?

These therapies harness the motivation you have to make change, stay close when things feel bad, and stay present on your journey of growth.

When you are experiencing distress, therapy provides unique support for resolution and growth.

Therapy is powerful in deepening insight into your emotions, thoughts, behaviours and values. At the same time the process of therapy transforms you, resulting in a greater ability to cope.

Through a therapeutic relationship, deeper patterns in the personality can loosen over time, heal and grow into something that create greater freedom in life.

In a caring way, you are helped, guided and attended to which allows you to adjust internally. Positive changes in your lived external world can then follow, including greater calm, confidence and contentment.

Areas of experience include:
abuse, anxiety, assertiveness,  attachment, avoidance, communication, custody, depression, emotional regulation, divorce, fixation, flexibility, healthy boundaries, impulse control, individuation, initiative, intimacy, intrusive thoughts, loss, maladaptive behaviour, mistrust, mood, openness, paranoia, patience, post traumatic stress, process addiction, relationships, rumination, schizophrenia, separation, sexuality, stress, tenacity, trauma, trust, and work situations.
Feelings of:
abandonment, aggression, anger, anxiety, deprivation, despair, disempowerment, dread, emptiness, envy, fear, frustration, grief, guilt, hate, hopelessness, hostility, humiliation, hurt, inferiority, insecurity, jealousy, loneliness, neglect, powerlessness, rage, rejection, sadness, self-doubt, shame and worry.

How often is therapy ?
How long does it take?
The frequency of therapy follows your availability. The first meeting is an opportunity to assess that.
Therapy takes as long as a person needs, and is motivated. It can be relatively brief if the issue you want to work on resolves soon. It tends to be open ended when the focus is on-going personal growth.


Psychotherapy is at least 3 months (12 sessions) of weekly therapy.

This type of therapy is an ongoing encounter with underlying patterns of behaviour and emotional expression. Running parallel with this process is a deepening of the therapeutic relationship.


Counselling is a brief focussed treatment to help you get through a rough patch or pressing situation.

It is once a week, for typically less than three months. When the issue feels resolved the treatment is ended.


Consultation is an intermittent session for support, particularly when you are unable to commit to a weekly therapy.

lt is also a good way to support integration when winding down from a period of weekly counselling or psychotherapy.

There is no fixed schedule for this and can be irregular, as the need arises.
A consultation can be booked up to a week in advance.


Psychoanalysis works when a strong therapeutic relationship has been established, and your commitment is for at least a year`s therapy.

You may recline on the couch, rather than sitting face to face, if you wish. Sessions can increase from once to twice a week, and eventually possibly three times.

This type of therapy is a “road less travelled”, but one that has lasting value for people determined to allow deep structural shifts to emerge.